If I could go back, I’d start here.. 👇🏽
I’m 48. These are the 8 things I wish someone had told me at 30.
These aren’t trends neither wellness hacks.
They’re the inner foundations that quietly build the peace, confidence, and freedom you’ve been chasing everywhere else.
Save this & follow along for more 💚 The woman you’re becoming & rediscovering will thank you. ✨
1. Stop saying “I’m fine” when you’re not.
Your nervous system keeps score. Every lie costs you energy.
2. Put your name back in your own diary (the top one it’s saved for YOU)Not after everyone else. First. Even 10 minutes counts.
3. Let your body finish the stress cycle. Shake. Breathe. Move. Your body needs to release what your mind won’t.
4. Start noticing when you say yes but mean no. Just notice. That’s where the pattern lives.
5. Find one space where you don’t have to perform. A circle. A session. A walk alone. Somewhere you can just BE.
6. Stop carrying conversations, relationships, and households alone.
Ask for help. It’s not weakness. It’s wisdom.
7. Listen to your body before she screams. The tight jaw. The exhaustion. The weight that won’t shift. She’s been whispering for years.
8. Stop waiting for permission to live your own life.
No one is coming to give it to you neither to save you. Take it.
And ALWAYS remember that life happens for not against You even though it might feel unpleasant or uncomfortable at times to say at least and there’s always something for You in it.
With self compassion & love trust it 🧚♀️✨
PS. 💚 Take my free Good Girl Pattern Assessment to find out what pattern needs shifting- link in bio.
With Love,
Agni 💚✨
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#goodgirlrecovery #peoplepleaser #over40 #womenover40 burnoutprevention
She was never broken. She just kept making herself smaller to fit.
✨ Save this if you needed to hear it.
The box? That’s everyone else’s expectations. Their demands. Their comfort.
The plate? That’s you.
And you don’t even realise you’re breaking yourself into pieces trying to fit into a space that was never made for you.
The Good Girl suit looked like safety. Like love. Like belonging.
So you wore it. Every single day.
You said yes when your body screamed no.
You smiled when you wanted to cry.
You kept the peace while your insides were at war.
And somewhere along the way, you forgot what your own shape looked like.
That exhaustion?
That resentment you can’t explain?
That feeling of being lost inside your own life?
That’s not weakness. That’s what happens when you abandon yourself to be accepted by everyone else…to the point that you loose yourself & your precious pieces of YOU..
But I want to remind you that You don’t need to break yourself to fit anymore.
You need to come home. To your body. Your truth. Your soul.
That’s Good Girl Recovery.
Start with identifying the patterns that run your Good Girl ways.
Link in bio for free Pattern assessment 💚
With Love, Agni ✨
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#goodgirlrecovery #peoplepleaser #peoplepleaserrecovery #nervoussystem #selfabandonment
Offer yourself this time. A full hour to reset from the week, feminine flow & coming back into your body ✨
The one inside you who carries the weight of the day in her shoulders, her jaw, her chest. Who is always doing, always holding, always on.
This hour is for her 💚 at the end of the week 💚
Feminine Flow — A Somatic Evening for Women
✨ Friday 12th June · 7:30pm
✨ The Wild Box · Bristol BS3 4BL @thewildboxbristol
✨ Limited spaces
One hour of breath, gentle movement and somatic practice — followed by a beautiful closing tea with white peony & rose 🌹
A space to come home to your body and remember yourself.
Trau•ma -informed · Neur•odivergent friendly · No experience needed
Come as you are. 🌸
Links to book in my bio ☝️
→ Via my website (lower fees platform fees)
→ Via Eventbrite
Both links in bio. 💚
See you soon 🧚🧚♀️🧚♀️
Agni ✨
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For years I struggled to explain what I actually do.
I’d say “coach.” I’d say “somatic practitioner.” I’d watch the words land flat and feel that old pull to prove myself, to make it sound impressive.
Here’s the truth, plainly:
I work with women who are running their lives on willpower.
Women who achieve, hold, deliver, smile — and feel further from themselves every year. Women who have read the books, done the journalling, tried the meditation app, and still wake up bracing.
What I offer isn’t another tool to add to the pile. It’s something different — because the pushing is the thing that needs to stop, not the thing that needs to be optimised.
We work together on three levels at once.
We look at the inherited beliefs that made your worth conditional on output — the ones you didn’t choose but have been living by.
We help your nervous system step out of the survival mode it’s been quietly running in for years and we give your body — which has been holding the held breath, the swallowed no, the unfelt grief — space to finally let it go.
The women who come to me don’t leave with a new five-year plan. They understand themselves so that anything they do feels sustainable and long term.
They leave able to rest without guilt. To say no without spiralling. To feel like themselves again — sometimes for the first time in a decade.
This is the work.
💚
Want to know which Good Girl pattern is running your life?
I’ve put together a free 2-minute assessment that shows you exactly which one is draining you most — and what it’s costing you.
Link in my BIO ✨
Love 💚, Agni
What if you saw it like this ?
Life is like a table full of different foods, but it’s your call what you put on your plate.
And …I lay there thinking about myself & all the women I work with — women who’ve spent twenty, thirty, forty years eating off other people’s plates.
The conditioning, the way we were brought up to be good girls 🧒 forgetting about our own needs or numbing the parts of us that reminded us about them 😢
Saying yes to things we didn’t want.
Clearing our plate when we were already full.
Being grateful for scraps and calling it love.
Most of these women don’t come to me wanting more.
They come exhausted, looking down at a plate they didn’t choose, asking — how did I get here and thinking something is wrong with them ☹️
The work isn’t about adding things.
The table is already full of everything you could possibly want.
The work is remembering you get to choose & allowing yourself to do that.
Working with not only with mind but also with your nervous system because the body keeps the score , and connecting with deeper part in you that knows what you truly desire 💚
What’s on your plate right now that you didn’t actually pick?
🤍
Love , Agni
Ps. Free pattern assessment in my bio to see what pattern rund your life the strongest , so that you can finally free yourself from it & start “start filling up your plate with the food that you actually want “
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Embracing all the colours of ourselves will lead us home ❤️🩹
Even the ones we were taught didn’t belong or where to be ashamed of or to be hidden.
We show up only with our best face so that we can be digestible by others but maybe we cannot accept ourselves otherwise 🤔
What we actually do by putting the so-called orchid away — is program ourselves into our own rejection.
Every time we tuck a part of us out of sight, we teach ourselves that that part isn’t welcome. Not even by us..
Then we wonder why we feel so disconnected. So tired. So unsure of who we really are underneath.
You cannot come home to yourself by rejecting half of who you are.
Wholeness was never about blooming all the time.
It’s about letting every part of you belong — the blooming and the bare, the loud and the quiet, the tired and the alive.
All of it is you.
And all of it gets to stay. 💚
Do you put yourself in a garage sometimes?
Love , Agni 💚
In this world we need more opening.
Not just closing.
Yes — we clear the way from the old but what’s coming into the created space? We create space for new, aren’t we?
..and if we never open to the new... if we never allow ourselves to actually receive...we might even feel emptier than before not allowing ourselves to receive into that new capacity.
And we don’t open to the receiving? How do we grow?
We spend so much time learning to say no and that work is important..
..But there’s another side nobody talks about.
The woman who has learned to say no — but still struggles to let anything good in.
Who feels more at home in closing than in opening.
Who somewhere along the way became more familiar with rejecting than receiving.
It’s good to remember that true boundaries aren’t just walls as they can be also doors.
Knowing when to open them — to what you actually want and need — that’s just as much the work.
Which feels more familiar to you right now?
Saying no — or saying yes?
Love, Agni 💚
Softness.
I’ve been thinking about what it actually means.
To me, softness is being able to be real.
(What a gift it feels today & privilege in this social media flooded spaces with AI version of us only to be seen & never really felt . The world of life simulation almost )
To me the softness means to stay open where you would normally crunch or close yourself into protection.
In that softness, there’s also wisdom.
Knowing which spaces inside you need tenderness. Which parts need a gentle light shawl on them. Which need to be held softly in retreat for now so they can mature before being shown fully.
Softness isn’t weakness.
It’s strength that comes from self-awareness;
From the confidence of knowing who you are & to be able to discern what’s yours and what’s not ;
From the acceptance of showing that part of yourself to the world.
That’s the real depth of work my heart desires for myself & others 💚
Share it with another sister or your friend so we share wildly & widely the permission for being soft & real ✨✨✨
Love & softness, Agni 💚
I wish I knew this sooner…
The thing about overthinking & anxiety is to understand that you can’t find a new answer using the same ingredients you’ve already been cooking with & expecting different outcomes.
When you’re stuck in your head, you’re stirring the same ‘soup’ over and over expecting it to taste different.
The trick here is that when you regulate your nervous system and drop into your body, you access something new.
✨Creativity.
✨Clarity.
✨Different ingredients.
✨A completely different meal.
✨Your inner wisdom & knowing
When you’re stuck in your head, everything feels urgent ‼️ Heavy and Impossible.
When you drop into your body, the same problem suddenly has space around it. First of all you can breathe, you can pause , tune in or think.
I wouldn’t call this magic but regulation.
The problem didn’t shrink. You just got grounded enough to see it clearly.
💚 Want to learn how to get out of your head and into your body?
Comment WEBINAR and I’ll send you the link to sign up for my FREE webinar.
Love, Agni 💚
P.S. In the meantime, take my free Good Girl Pattern Assessment (link in bio) - it’s the first step to understanding what’s really running the show.
Working on yourself isn’t about a push or pull as this usually disrespects some aspect of you ✨
It isn’t about forcing yourself into some “best version” that someone else decided for you.
At some point of my life I spent years trying things because everyone said they were good. But that perhaps was true for them, but definitely not for me.
Real growth isn’t about following or blindly copying. It’s about feeling.
It’s about taking responsibility for your choices - but actually knowing which choices make YOU feel better.
Make you feel & grow. Make you heal.
Not what works for her. What works for you.
That’s the work I believe in and I do with my clients that I ready to dive as deep as they want to . To feel themselves, to grow truly & not just doing superficial changes , to heal on many layers so that they can hear , understand & do what is their inner calling & their truth 💚
That’s alignment. That’s the work.
Love , Agni 💚
💚 If you’re ready to stop following and start feeling - take my free Good Girl Pattern Assessment (link in bio) and discover what’s actually blocking you from being fully aligned with yourself.
Or if DM to get working together 💚 for real 💚
#selfwork #alignment #healingjourney #growthmindset
There’s a reason you feel like you feel disconnected or you even don’t recognise yourself anymore 🌿
I filmed this spinning around the trees and it made me think about how life feels sometimes - everything moving, demands pulling you in every direction, noise everywhere - and somewhere in the middle of all that, there’s you ✨
I was always felt in the past so confused and conflicted inside me, almost split. Working on getting to know me made me feel what parts are truly me and I realised even more that when you know yourself, you can stand still while everything spins around you. You become the centre, not the chaos , you are not an easy target to that external noise either. You consciously stand , live & watch life move without getting swept away by it.
Note - What happens when you don’t know yourself?
You spin with everything else.
You become what others need you to be.
You absorb their expectations, their definitions, their version of who you should be - and slowly you forget there was ever another option.
The world won’t stop spinning but you can choose to come back to yourself again and again, so that when the noise gets loud, you still know who you are underneath it all.
My question for you today to ponder on is :
when was the last time you actually checked in with yourself? Not with what needs to be done or who needs what from you, but with YOU. What do you actually feel or what do you actually want?
Start there 💚
Love , Agni 💚
Something I don’t talk about much 💚
For years I felt like something was wrong with me, like I was incomplete or not enough, watching everyone else actually live while I was just getting through. That’s at least how it felt for me back then..
I didn’t want traditional therapy nor counselling because sitting in my past and analysing everything didn’t feel like my path, but I didn’t know what else was out there so I kept searching, losing time and energy and feeling even more lost.
What I wish someone told me sooner is that there are other ways, that you don’t have to dig through your trauma to heal, and that being held in a safe space where you’re truly seen can open something that years of searching alone never could.
That feeling of not being enough isn’t who you are - it’s conditioning and patterns that won’t let you see beyond them.
That THERE IS a way out !
This is what I offer now because I don’t want you to search as long as I did 💚
Anyone else been here? 🙏
Love, Agni 💚
P.S. Feel resonation ?
If it’s a ‘yes’& you want the way out of that box 👇 I’m opening a 9-week group journey in May for women who are done searching and ready to find.
Max 11 women for the intimate , safe container & personal touch combined with Holistic approach.
If this is speaking to you, comment ALIGN or DM me to know more 💚
