Growing up in Kansas, I always took the state motto to heart.
Ad Astra Per Aspera, through hardships to the stars.
I spent most of my life being proud to be from Kansas. It taught me resilience. It taught me how to work hard. It taught me how to keep going when things felt impossible.
But at a certain point, being from Kansas became one of the things holding me back.
Early in my transition, I learned I couldnāt update my birth certificate there. Something shifted in me that day. Home started to feel complicated in a way I didnāt have language for yet.
This weekās legislation, moves that invalidate trans Kansansā driverās licenses and identity documents, makes that feeling painfully clear. It sends a message about who is allowed to exist comfortably and who is expected to live in constant friction with the world around them.
I was lucky. I was able to leave. I was able to build a life that still surprises me sometimes, a life Iām proud of, a life that once felt impossible.
Through hardships to the stars.
But many of my friends donāt have that option. And they shouldnāt have to leave home just to be recognized as themselves.
So if youāre wondering what to do:
Call your state representatives and tell them trans people deserve accurate IDs.
Support local LGBTQ organizations doing legal and mutual aid work.
Check in on your trans friends, especially the ones still living in places that make everyday life harder than it needs to be.
And when these stories come up, donāt look away. Speak. Share. Stay engaged.
Visibility helps. Pressure helps. Community helps.
I still carry where Iām from with me. I just want it to carry all of us, too
Coincidentally I got my first CA ID today.
10 years of Ada.
Happy 10 years of Ada to you, and you, and most of all to ME
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TL;DR: This year has been rough in almost every way except the one that matters most: how I feel about myself.
When my ex-girlfriend stabbed a needle into my butt cheek in a Chicago hotel room 10 years ago, I had no idea what the future had waiting for me. I didnāt know Iād ever feel pretty, or successful, or like life was finally something I wanted to stick around for. But here I am. Older. Established. Evolved in more ways than one.
I donāt have it in me to write my usual novel-length anniversary post, but I do want to give a shoutout to those whoāve stuck by me through the chaos and the glow-ups and the growing pains, youāre the real ones. I love you. Iām grateful. I wouldnāt have made it through these ten years without you.
ALSO Iād be remiss not to acknowledge that my 10-year day coincidentally falls on #TransDayOfRemembrance, which happens at the close of #TransAwarenessWeek. I havenāt seen as many posts this year. I think a lot of us are scared. But today Iām celebrating myself, and Iām also holding space for every trans brother, sister, and sibling weāve lost to violence. May their memories move us forward.
Hereās to another 10 years.
This month I moved into my second home in L.A. I honestly didnāt think Iād ever be able to leave the little Pasadena house, but life had other plans. That place was a safe haven through some of the darkest chapters of my life⦠and weirdly, the scene of my rebirth too. It also held one of my greatest heartbreaks. Iāve carried all of it, and that house, with me every day for three years. Leaving it feels like both a relief and a loss.
We signed for house number 55 after seeing it on 2/2/22 and thought it to be a good omen. Turns out, whatever the stars were warning about that day⦠thatās what we shouldāve listened to.
@alexandraskyel wanted to capture me in the house stripped down about as much as the walls themselves. Wild to see how much both I and the house have changed in three years.
Onward and upward, I guess ā¤ļø
So, my 55th and second to last show of the year happened yesterday, and itās funny that I consider that a ālowā number because Iāve been on the road pretty much all year. This year has been a crazy mix of chaos and growth, starting right from those LA fires at the start. Honestly, after 15 years of touring, this is the first time Iāve really felt this homesick, and I guess getting older just makes that a bit harder.
Iām thinking a lot about the long-term path of touring and life, and I really just want to say a special thanks to the people in my corner whoāve been patient with me and supported me through all of this. Big love to the teams with Miley Cyrus, OK Go, and Alabama Shakes for being my rocks this year, but also a quiet thank you to those loved ones who know me best. Youāve been my anchor even when Iāve been miles away, and I hope you know how much that means.
Iām a bit burnt out, but Iām also hopeful. Slowing down finally feels like a gift, and Iām just so grateful I get to do what I do. Hereās to making something good out of the rest of this year.
Iām moving house and shop in the next couple weeks. If I have your guitar itās nearly completed. I just havenāt had more than a handful of days at home this year so itās been a bit more challenging than normal. Iāll make an announcement when Iām ready for more projects (because Iāll def need them).
Guess my fave -
Even after dinner good boys eat
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Elephants And Donkeys Grow Big Ears
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Every Actor Definitely Gets Big Egos
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Eddie Ate Dynamite, Good Bye Eddie
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Eat A Dog, Grab Big Ears
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Earthworms Are Delicious, Give Bacteria Energy
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Every Awesome Dog Gets Bone Energy
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Exotic Animals Dance Gracefully Before Elephants
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Every Artist Draws Great Beautiful Expressions
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Eagles Always Dance Gracefully Before Elevation
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Even All Dogs Get Big Emotions
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Everyone Always Drives Golf Balls Easily
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Every Alligator Dances Gracefully Beneath Earth
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Eager Ants Discover Great Banana Eclairs
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Epic Adventures Delight Good Buddies Everywhere
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Each Antelope Dances Gracefully Beneath Everyone
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Every Angel Dances Gracefully, Bringing Energy
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Elephants And Dolphins Go Bananas Eating
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Enjoying A Delicious Giant Bacon Egg
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Excited Artists Dance Gracefully By Evening
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Every Aardvark Digs Great Big Expanses@@šø - @woodesmusic
I very specifically remember thinking Iād never see my name on this wall again when I did it in 2022. Feels crazy to still be doing it and still be succeeding and also somehow now saying āoh Iāve been hereā every time I walk into a venue. Iām just a gal from a cornfield.