I never took the time to properly introduce myself.
Hi I’m Rae 🌞
Eight years ago, I moved across the world for love.
I was 23.
I knew no one.
My degree was from a university no one had heard of.
My references were in another country.
I was broke.
I didn’t have a visa that allowed me to work.
And everything familiar… my family, my friends, my identity… was over 9,000 miles away.
At the time, it felt like I had completely started over.
And in many ways, I had.
What I didn’t expect was how much more goes into moving abroad for love than anyone talks about.
It’s not just visas, logistics or logistics (although those are hard ngl).
It’s identity. belonging. finances. fear.
It’s navigating a relationship while both of you are stretched in ways you’ve never been before.
There were moments I questioned everything because I wondered if I had made a mistake.
Moments I felt completely alone and I had to figure things out with no roadmap, and I didn’t feel like I could talk to anyone back home because I was worried they’d think I failed. 🥲
But slowly, I built a life here.
Now, I’m a business owner.
A permanent resident.
And I have a community that feels like home.
And through all of that, I realized something:
There is no real guide for this experience of transforming your life to be with another person.
So I started creating one.
Over the past few months, I’ve been working on something that brings together everything I’ve learned: from navigating visas and identity shifts
to the emotional, financial and psychological realities of starting over for love.
It brings together everything I’ve learned about rebuilding your life without losing yourself in the process.
If you’re navigating love across countries, or even thinking about it, I’m building this for you and I’d love to hear your story 💛
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“Did you bring any souvenirs from Italy?”
Just one.
And he changed my whole life.
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DRAEC wedding across three continents ❤️
Hi, I’m Rae and just four weeks after meeting Declan, I packed up my life in Italy and moved across the world to Australia to be with him. We’ve been together ever since. Now, we’re planning our wedding across three continents.
We started in December with a home reception on Treasure Island, Florida my home town. Then in March, we had our second home reception in Canberra, Australia, where we’ve lived and built our lives since 2018.
This August, we are having our big fat Sicilian wedding back in the country where it all began: Italy. We purchased a house in Sicily in 2022, where we return each August to visit with friends and reconnect with my roots.
Our wedding will truly be a celebration of our worlds colliding on that beautiful island in the middle of the Mediterranean. 4 days. 100 people. 10 languages. One love story.
We are excited to celebrate with brands who, like us, believe love knows no boundaries, crosses all borders. If that’s you, we’d love you to be there on this most special weekend.
And to this community who have been so supportive of this online journey: which brands would you like to see with us on our wedding day?
You are building ONE life
If your partner would never even consider moving for you too, they’re probably not your person.
That doesn’t mean you both have to move countries for each other. You can absolutely decide together that one place makes more sense for your future, careers, family, language or lifestyle. But it needs to be a decision you make TOGETHER.
As someone who moved abroad for my fiance 8 years ago, I know that moving abroad for someone is one of the biggest sacrifices a person can make, and if someone sees you as a true life partner they should at least be able to imagine making that kind of sacrifice for you too.
If this resonates with you, feel free to follow along 💛
As someone who moved across the world for love I wish I had known this first
There’s a lot that my fiancé and I wish we had known when we started this journey, and that’s why we’ve put all the conversations we wish we had early on into a couple’s workbook. In it is everything we wished we had back then to better support each other emotionally, logistically and financially when I moved across the world to be with him. You can find the waitlist for this workbook in the link in my bio. 💛
“But what happens if it doesn’t work out?”
Hi, my name’s Rae and when I moved to Australia for a guy I had met 4 weeks earlier, funnily enough, I didn’t ask myself that question. I just knew he was my person and this was my path. And 8 years later, I can say with certainty that I was 100% correct.
But at that time, pretty much everyone in my life was asking ME that question. “What will you do if it doesn’t work out?” And fair enough, because on the outside that choice probably looked reckless. We just had to trust ourselves that we were making the right decisions, but all I wanted was to follow someone like me who had done something like what I was doing and come out the other side happy and still with the person they had moved for.
That’s why I started @_alltherae , to share what it’s really like moving abroad long term. To share what worked for us, and what didn’t and the realities of what it’s like to build a life on the other side of the world without losing yourself.
So if you’re new here, hi :) I’m so glad you’re here. And if this resonates with you, feel free to follow along 💛
It’s me, I needed to hear this.
one bold move can rewrite your entire story and your real power you have is believing things will work out even before you know how or when.
Hi, I’m Rae and 8 years ago I was faced with a single decision that changed my life forever. I had fallen in love with a guy I had met 6 weeks earlier, and I could either return home to the US, or start a brand new life with him here in Australia. One decision, and a completely different life.
I chose to stay in Australia, but at the time, I wanted to hear from someone, anyone who had been through what I was going through. And that’s why I started this account, to show people what’s possible and what real stories of big decisions are actually like. So if any of this resonates with you, feel free to follow along 💛
Sometimes you have to risk everything for a dream only you can see.
But it’s so worth it in the end
In 2018 I had to do exactly this when I moved across the world for a guy I had met 4 weeks before. Somehow, I just knew. And 8 years later we’re still be together planning our wedding across three continents.
On this account I share what trusting yourself is actually like. and if any of this resonates with you feel free to follow along. 💛
Sorry mom
I told my mom that I was just going to study in Italy for 3 months and then come home. Life had other plans.
Hi, I’m Rae 🌞 and while I was in Italy, I met Declan and I just knew that he was my person. And so when he asked me to come out to Australia to see where he lived I said yes. Two weeks after I arrived, he asked me to stay and build a life together, and we’ve been together ever since.
Back when I was going through that decision and the early days of our relationship, I just wanted to talk to somebody, anybody, who had done something like what I was doing and who didn’t regret it and who in fact was happily still with their partner.
And so that’s why I created this account, to be the creator I would have loved to follow back then who posts about the realities of moving abroad for love almost a decade later. So if this is you or any of it resonates with you, I’m so glad you’re here, and feel free to follow along 💛
